RANSVESTIA

When I began to dress up regularly and started shaving my legs (all of which takes a great deal of time) she had no complaints at first. But after spending a lot of my time at home engrossed with this activity I began to notice that my wife was becoming increasingly irritable. Then, one night when I tried to make love to her while dressed up, she let it be known that I was "driving her up the wall." Something had to give-either my activ- ities had to be modified or the marriage would fail. I decided it would be best to discontinue cross-dressing for a few months to ease the tension that had built up between us. When I finally considered the situation from her viewpoint I was surprised that she had put up with things as they were as long as she did.

Every week-day my wife was working hard at a job that she didn't like to support us. Two nights a week she had classes to go to and the others to spend studying. Each night she would cook supper and clean up the kitchen, after which she would either study, watch television, or simply relax. After supper, though, I was busy shaving my legs and dressing which took at least an hour. I noticed that our sex life seemed to be di- minishing, but at the time I didn't believe it to be my fault. My failure to keep her sexually satisfied was "the straw that broke the camel's back."

Not only was my wife the main breadwinner, she was chief cook and bottle-washer. It was bad enough that I wasn't doing my share of the work, what little time she had to spend being with me was being greatly infringed on by my conversion of the masculine image that she married to some- thing quite different. Also when I was dressed up I felt more inclined to- wards making love, the opposite being true for her (she regards the idea of making love to another woman as distasteful). All these factors combined, were too much to bear and when I finally realized it, I set about trying to make changes.

Since then I have tried to help out more with household duties and have refrained from dressing up so much that I deny her my masculinity when she needs it most. She in turn has become more understanding of my needs and has even let me make love to her while dressed up (which she discovered wasn't quite as bad as she imagined). This was possible only because we didn't give up trying to communicate with one another and were both willing to try compromise.

If any of you FPs out there are having trouble gaining acceptance from your wife, find out what she needs and expects of you and give it to her at least part of the time. And don't be afraid to let her know exactly what

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